Here at Arlington Funerals, we know far too much on what must be going through your mind when losing a loved one, we see it almost every day and we never get used to it and we can still sometimes have a loss of words to the family members. But once the funeral is over and done with, you may feel a little lost, someone you used to speak to every single day isn’t there anymore and you don’t know who to turn to or you don’t know how to cope with it. Today we’ll be talking about the 5 steps of Grievance, from the Shock of it all through to Accepting that your loved one isn’t with us anymore.
This is the first step of grief and most of us go through this when we lose somebody close to us. You may try and deny that they’re not here anymore by trying to trick your mind into thinking they’re still alive. Although to help to move on from this step of grief, it helps to think about your feelings towards the loss of your loved one, it can be hard and painful, but you’ve just got to push through.
After most people accept that their loved one isn’t with us anymore, they may start feeling frustrated, anxiety, shame or even guilt. This can be because you may have wanted different last words or you wish you could’ve done something to prevent it and you blame yourself. It isn’t your fault and you couldn’t have done anything to prevent it. You should find ways of expressing your anger, but in a constructive way as this helps to avoid a longer lasting depression.
This is where you will start trying to change reality by bargaining your way forward. During this grievance step it is usually very hard to find meaning and purpose. But you’ve just got to keep pushing on and eventually you will move out of this phase.
By now you are close to the end of the grievance process. But this one can be the worst to get through. You will keep getting overcome by feelings of intense sadness whenever you remember about your loved one, being through talking about them or by seeing/doing something that they used to do/enjoy. To help you get through this stage, you just need to accept any support that your close friends and relatives give to you as this gives you an extra shoulder to lean on whilst you try and cope through it all.
This is the last stage of grieving you will start to notice that the sadness will become less intense (but it may still be there for a while, just not as much). You will slowly begin to accept that life goes on and that if you have any religious beliefs then you may see them again someday. During this stage, you will notice that you have more energy as it starts to return and you’ll be looking towards the future.
We have found an awesome infographic (shown above, click the image to enlarge)which explains these steps in a more brief way. If you are in need of help with your grieving and you would like some more helpful information with dealing with you grievance process, then please feel free to click here to view some more helpful information. Alternatively if you are interested in our services, that can offer you or a family member then please don’t hesitate to get into contact with us and a member of our friendly team will be in touch with you shortly.
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